On 31 Oct 2023, my deceased partner, Janet, was cremated in Hakodate, Japan. She had died an unexpected and accidental death three days earlier. My son, John, was with me. I cannot properly describe my feelings at the time, except perhaps to say they were blackest black. I was grief-stricken to an extreme degree not capable of explanation to anyone who has not actually experienced it themself. I was barely functional. As I described in my last blog (entitled ‘Dealing with Extreme Grief’) I was not anchored in the real world.

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Dealing with Extreme Grief

Grief is something with which we all, except for a lucky few, will have to deal sooner or later. Extreme grief, such as I have recently experienced, will come to an unlucky few of us. My recent experience of extreme grief resulted from the accidental and unexpected death of my partner of 32+ years. This, I believe, is about as extreme as grief can get. Perhaps some of the people in Gaza right now are experiencing worse.

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Izakaya in My Sights

We are off to Japan for about seven weeks. During this time, I may not be as busy with my blogs/posts as I would be when home. For this, I apologize.

With the exception of Australia, my home country, my favorite place in which to travel is Japan. And one of the reasons – and there are many – are the izakaya. They are peculiar to Japan. Put simply, they are places to eat, drink, and socialize. Perhaps the nearest equivalent is the pinxos bar in the Basque region of Europe.

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